Develop internal success from fear and phobia: a practical perspective.
By Faiz Ali Hassan
“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Said Nelson Mandela. At least once in our life, we have wondered what our is fear and how to overcome it. Fear is of course something we dislike, but in one way or the other, it shapes our character and makes us who we are to overcome the real obstacles of life.
Fear is a basic human emotion, and it is a sign that signals you that something dangerous is near. Fear is like a warning sign that cautions you from scary things. Some people are afraid of one thing but others are used to it. For example, you are on a roller coaster, and you are high up. You expect that nothing bad is going to happen, then you go down gently then really fast. Some people like roller coasters but some don’t.
How does fear work?
When we sense danger the brain reacts instantly and sends signals to our nervous system, and all this happens really fast. Sometimes fear causes a faster heartbeat, rapid breathing and an increase in blood pressure. When people face their fear, they are filled with nothing but panic. Yes, but think again. Fear makes us aware of our surroundings and makes us do the right thing in the situation.
One day I was at the swimming pool with my fellow friends. One of them was nervous and scared with the constant thought of what if I drown, what if I drown. And the other thought was “My friends are having fun; I want to join as well”.
What would you do in this situation?
The right thing is to not swim even if you have the passion to swim. Because swimming may cause many problems especially drowning. So, my friend had decided to avoid swimming to protect himself and practice when he is ready. Fear is in us since we were born but we get used to things because we get more mature, but what happens if fears are still awake in a person?
Phobia is the next step of fears, but it has a stronger reaction and situation. Phobias make people sad, upset, and lazy ruining people’s lives. There are many phobias such as height phobia, water phobia, dark phobia, zoophobia, and many more. Around the whole world, some people have the dream to act and appear on the big screen being a shining star. Will Smith, is a legendary actor, and a role model who didn’t get the gift to act since birth. The gift he really got was stage fright. Tell me how someone with the fear can of public speaking or having the whole spotlight on and feeling worthless on stage be an actor. But for will smith, he took that as an obstacle in life and overcame it. Now, look at him.
This is a real incident that took place. A criminal was caught by the police, and the courtroom decided instead of hanging him till death a snake will bite him. So they put him in a room and showed him a very dangerous snake. Then they blindfolded the criminal and instead of making him bit by a snake they used a pin. He did not die because of the pin he thought it was the snake and by thinking about that he died.
The best way to overcome fear is to learn about that fear, take it as a challenge but at the same time and opportunity to prevail and learn from it.
“One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do.”